Sep 24
Single mom
We are doing an experiment in the next couple of weeks…
Devin and the girls are going to church alone. I want to see what church is like for a “single” mother and this is the only way I know how to make that happen.
Where do you park?
Is it easy to find your way around?
How are you treated once you get there?
What is it like to walk into a crowded auditorium and sit by yourself?
Devin will answer those questions in a guest blog in the upcoming weeks. This could be pretty interesting.
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Hi J.R., I am a single mom - and as you know active in church - and I love our church. Our church at CrossPointe has been wonderful to me - I don’t think I would have survived these years without my church family.
But here are some experiences/incidents that people don’t think of..
Single mom of small baby - the rain. I used to long for someone to drop me off at the door. We now have Valet at church - and I hope the single parents use it.
Holidays-Are terribly lonely. Even now I struggle - they are so geared toward “complete” families. Single moms should be recognized on Father’s dad and vice versa for single dads on Mother’s Day. Have a dinner for the single parents over the holidays - geared toward them - it is lonely- especially when you know your kids will be visiting the other parent for part of the time. It doesn’t have to be on the actual holiday - but just a time when the staff realizes how lonely it is-trust me it helps so much to know someone cares.
Church dinners - Single moms need help with getting the food for their little ones - or allow them to go after the mature members.
Once you are there - it is hard to find your way around (I have found this when visiting other churches for programs, etc) - you feel isolated. And again it is hard trying to kids situated, etc.
Single Parent Day - It would be great if you could have a day (a Saturday-every three months) set up for single parents. Have a place set up to give oil changes for no charge or even a business who would donate the time. A few chairs set up for haircuts - they may cost $10-$15 but when it comes time to choose between groceries and haircuts - groceries win every time, an area set up for clothes swap, basketball goals set up for those without dads to hang out with Godly men. A corner where a single mom can meet with strong Christian women for prayer and mentoring - via a manicure.
I could keep going and I know this is long - but I just wanted to share.
Praying for you guys. You are much appreciated.
Say hello to Lexi for me - we are singing every Sunday night and every now and then I look to see Lexi in her sunglasses doing her best Moonwalk!
In Christ,
Becky Mills
Good thoughts…
Thanks for the response. You are awesome!
I read this about a month ago and forwarded it to Pastor Jim. I thought it was a great idea for the perspective of a single lady, because, obviously, I am not one nor could i ever pass for one. I wish I could say that for you, but I have a photo that proves otherwise. HAHA (marriage banquet a couple years ago) See ya